Motivational Lying Can't Bring Happiness - Creating Change

I was about 35 years old when I made the assumption that most of my problems stem from my surroundings. My wife at the time had gotten caught up in the chat rooms on the Internet and was talking to other men about sexual things and exchanging what appeared to me, to be letters of sexual intent. This went on until our separation if you years later.

She was always explaining to me, how I was the problem, I rarely paid that much attention to her or told her how pretty she was. Obviously there were plenty of other people who could replace me in the chat rooms. I worked hard to take care of my family and got caught up in the responsibility of raising a family. I must have taken it a little too serious because I was divorced by the time I was 40.

Other people can make you feel good, laugh and of course feel wonderful. It seems like there are plenty of people out there who would love to be friendly with you but not your friend. Over time, I learned that I wasn't the problem but I also didn't have the solution, either.

The reason why I'm writing this article is because 13 years later, after my original confrontation with my now ex wife about her boyfriends on the Internet, she wrote me an e-mail, explaining to me that she didn't appreciate the fact that I made a video about her lying and put it on my website.

It's a shame, but I've had to deal with people like her my whole life, they create their own problems and then expect other people to solve them. They will deny the truth if it affects them in a negative way but will rub it in your face for the rest of your life if you are on the opposite end of their wrath.

I never have been able to figure out why these people have to make themselves look good by cutting other people down and making them feel small. It's somehow raises them up, often creating a false illusion that they are good people but the truth always comes out in the end. Someone once said and I believe it was Joseph Goebbels, the Nazi propaganda expert," if you tell a lie long enough, pretty soon everyone will believe it."

I've always been amazed at my ex-wives ability to convince someone that she's a better person, better parent and better wife than most. Sometimes these insecurities create difficulties but most of the time they lead to unhappiness.

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Greg Vanden Berge is a published author, internet marketing expert, motivational inspiration to millions of people all over the world and is sharing some of his wisdom with experts in the fields of writing,marketing, and personal development. Check out one of his recommended books, You Can Have It All

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